The dictionary states:
love |ləv|
noun1 an intense feeling of deep affection : babies fill parents with intense feelings of love |their love for their country.• a deep romantic or sexual attachment to someone : it was love at first sight |they were both in love with her | we were slowly falling in love.• ( Love) a personified figure of love, often represented as Cupid.• a great interest and pleasure in something : his love for football | we share alove of music.• affectionate greetings conveyed to someone on one's behalf.• a formula for ending an affectionate letter : take care, lots of love, Judy.2 a person or thing that one loves : she was the love of his life | their two great loves are tobacco and whiskey.• Brit., informal a friendly form of address : it's all right, love.• ( a love) Brit., informal used to express affectionate approval for someone :don't fret, there's a love.3 (in tennis, squash, and some other sports) a score of zero; nil : love fifteen | he was down two sets to love. [ORIGIN: apparently from the phrase play for love(i.e., the love of the game, not for money); folk etymology has connected the word with French l'oeuf ‘egg,’ from the resemblance in shape between an egg and a zero.]Which is it you feel? All of them, none of them or have you had the pleasure of utilizing every aspect of the word. I don't play tennis, so #3 is out for me. Oh no wait, I did play when I was in high school, so scratch that, 30-love, hehe. Stop; in the name of love, before you break my heart, let's just think this over a minute, and get back to where I started my thoughts with this one. Love. Falling in love, how, why, when and how many times does a person do this? One can only endure so much pain before they have heartache, nothing but a heartache. Sure, your eyes meet and you can't stop staring at each other for hours on end, or you don't want to hang up the phone because the thought of it makes you want to cry. A feeling so intense, so powerful that just the thought, an inkling of not being able to talk to them for a mere few hours makes your heart hurt. Ok, it was something you ate and it's just heartburn, time for some Tums. That didn't work.
Is it possible to fall in love and not know it? What are the odds? I'm a loving person and love to help people around me. Knowing me, you know this is true. I lend a hand whenever and where ever needed. It has been something I have always done. I love my friends with all my heart, and don't like to see when there is something wrong. I feel their pain. It makes me very sad. Believe me, I do not like being sad, it's something I don't practice. I elude from it on all levels and express happiness at all times. Again if you know me, you know that I am a happy person and always smiling, even in troubling times. Humor and laughter is the best medicine. Live, laugh and love as I'm always saying. I live by that. Now that I think about it, truly think about it, looked it up and read the true meaning, love is deep. Love is mysterious, interesting, ongoing, affectionate, caring, romantic, trusting, friendly, warm and tender. Most of all love is not something that should be thrown around like a baseball, back and forth and left on the ground if you don't want it anymore.
The question stands, falling in love. How and when, why and where does it happen? Can you go to the store and buy this? Are you sitting and reading a book or blog and there's that lightbulb again. Holy...am I...no, well maybe, no. I told myself I was never going to be put in this spot again. This time is different, I mean different. Love, yes, I have loved before, a few times, truly loved. There are many different types of loves.
Eros love- which is erotic love. This is usually the physical attraction, maybe awesome, but physical. It also has strong feelings, but more toward the physical side. The looks aspect of the relationship. Wow, is she sexy or he's hot, great body and you can't seem to take your hands off of each other. This is self serving too. All about ME. How you make ME feel and not so much about each other. It feels good because you make ME happy, that's the drawback, yes it's love, but it may be short-lived. "Baby, you make ME feel so good", sound familiar. Sorry, had to go there. I thought I was in love, looking back, I was, short lived, but Eros love. It's natural and important to have this type of relationship, believe me. We all need romance in our lives. Although, sometimes I wish I could step outside of my body to watch myself in a relationship, just for a few hours to tell my self to take my head out of my ass. Was I that lame? Nah, you love, love and learn.
Philos love- this is love based on a friendship between two people. You start out by being friends first, who knew? Having this type of love is more capable of becoming a long term relationship than any. You have a foundation, rather than hot steamy sex, not that we all don't need that too, but we need a foundation, a base to build your relationship on. Even in a friendship, you need a foundation. If you have nothing to build from, then what? the walls will eventually crumble down. This type of love is based on a give-take where you both gain from the relationship. Someone once told me many years ago, I can't remember his name, he was a teacher, but he said to me, "Love starts out as an empty box and each person has to add to the box everyday; love, happiness, joy, laughter, hugs, kisses, and he named off lots more, then he added, every day, you add every day. Now, whenever you feel you need any of these you take one from the box and as long as you both give and take, the box will never be empty." I will never forget what he said. This falls under philos love. Philos love will in the end turn into agape love, which eros love doesn't.
Agape love- this is unconditional love, as in mother-child. This is the highest form of love that there is. Unconditional love is the type of love where one person gives and takes nothing in return, not benefitting at all. Helping out a person, getting nothing in return, such as a child, an infant. Taking care of an older parent, because they can't care for themselves, unconditional. Agape love, is the highest for of love and is not all posses this type of love, although we all should. So many loves.
Love. How does it happen? When do you know? Does cupid come a shoot you with an arrow? Is it a feeling that overwhelms you, smacks you in the back of the head like your teach did because they thought they saw your eyes on someone else's paper taking a test. Was the moment, when the other person you're talking to you tells you that you just haven't realized what that "crazy" feeling you're trying to explain to them is , which you still can't describe in any terms that make any sense to you whatsoever.
I'm feeling as if I'm being pulled by a giant magnet, a force. I am supposed to be exactly where I am at this exact moment in time. For the first time in my life and I mean first, I feel as if there is a calm surrounding me. I can sit and stare at you for hours, no words, no awkward moments, never in my life can I say I've had a Jerry Maguire moment. Live, laugh and love.
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