Family...what do you say?

Family, what do you say, well how do you them?  No really, how do you really explain it, actually explain it to someone, especially since we're online.  People see things online, like this and instantly judge.  Yes, yes you do.  You know you do, instantly.  Yes, you too!  Especially you and you and you!  Don't give me you're bullshit line of I've been judged my whole life because I'm fat or short or my mom cut my hair to short my dad hit me or I was abused verbally or some other line of shit that a counselor told you in camp or during a 20 minute recess.  We were all treated like crap in one way or another and we all judge, we do no matter what we say, even if it's in our own heads and we don't verbally say it.  The difference is, we judge and we do it in different ways.  Take for instance what I like to call Facebook parents.  The parents that take the cute little pictures of their kids at parties and the park, all neat and clean, hugs and kisses or sleeping like angels, when in real life, they have no or little food on the table because those parents spend it on cigarettes and booze or worse.  All the other people in Facebook/Instagram land are like, awe, did you see your niece or grandkids, they look so happy.  In that instant, all I want to do is either cry or go slap the shit out of them, I still haven't figured out which.  Not that I have grandkids, this is hypothetical on my part (I'm just trying to make a point).  I instantly judge, I know I do, because I know those people; I know what they have and don't have.  I know they are just making it look good for others to see, "Keeping up with the Joneses" so to speak or Kardashians, whichever in this day and age.  In either scenario, I judge, good, bad or otherwise.

We judge to compensate for the differences, for the loss that we may feel, or that possibly that is over-compensating for what we need.  In any case, we judge.

Why is a judge a judge?  Why are people allowed to judge?  Why is one judge allowed to judge for one persons crime?  I understand they're voted in, yes, but does that make them a better judge of character or a better person?  Are they so different?  Are they so perfect or the closest to perfect that they are never and I mean never going to commit a crime in their lives to be able to say that another person should be held accountable for a heinous crime?  In the eyes of justice is this what the people say...hmm...or is it?

As for family, if this was your family would you be okay with this decision?  If there is one criminal and one judge and months and months worth of testimony... like a case of he said she said in a break-up.  I call BS.  I think there should be more than one judge on any case.  The reason being;  you, me, family, friends, people, fairness.

How beyond a reason of doubt of course, absolute and no other way, can one person judge anyone?  To me that just seems as if one judge's opinion is worth more than anybody else's opinion in some cases, many cases even.   Yes, looking at all the facts and making a decision is what a judge is supposed to do, understandably so, but, one person, one.  To be honest, a feel bad for the judges, having to make such judgements on people and cases on a daily basis.  And all for what?  The power to form an opinion legally.

Rules for sons

1. Never shake a man’s hand sitting down.
2. Don’t enter a pool by the stairs.
3. The man at the BBQ Grill is the closest thing to a king.
4. In a negotiation, never make the first offer.
5. Request the late check-out.
6. When entrusted with a secret, keep it.
7. Hold your heroes to a higher standard.
8. Return a borrowed car with a full tank of gas.
9. Play with passion or not at all…
10. When shaking hands, grip firmly and look them in the eye.
11. Don’t let a wishbone grow where a backbone should be.
12. If you need music on the beach, you’re missing the point.
13. Carry two handkerchiefs. The one in your back pocket is for you. The one in your breast pocket is for her.
14. You marry the girl, you marry her family.
15. Be like a duck. Remain calm on the surface and paddle like crazy underneath.
16. Experience the serenity of traveling alone.
17. Never be afraid to ask out the best looking girl in the room.
18. Never turn down a breath mint.
19. A sport coat is worth 1000 words.
20. Try writing your own eulogy. Never stop revising.
21. Thank a veteran. Then make it up to him.
22. Eat lunch with the new kid.
23. After writing an angry email, read it carefully. Then delete it.
24. Ask your mom to play. She won’t let you win.
25. Manners maketh the man.
26. Give credit. Take the blame.
27. Stand up to Bullies. Protect those bullied.
28. Write down your dreams.
29. Always protect your siblings (and teammates).
30. Be confident and humble at the same time.
31. Call and visit your parents often. They miss you.

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Do you ever feel like you need to write something and it just doesn't come out? You can try to force it, you can try and stress it out of your body.  It makes me think of the scene where Robin Williams is sitting on the toilet in the movie RV, ,lol, I can see it playing in my head as I type the whole thing out.  It rolls off the fingers or thumbs like nothing, just think, the whole scene is where he tries to write a presentation on his Blackberry with two thumbs, then has no service while pretending to be sleeping,  in the morning the rest of the family everyone is ready to have fun and he's exhausted.  Yeah, okay, BS, did you see that coming?  An entire presentation on a Blackberry. That's like trying to get a babysitter on a Friday night of the new Star Wars movie opening at the last minute, not happening.    Most times I feel like I'm trying to write that way though, two thumbs on a Blackberry.  

I think about what I'm going to write all the time, I have a thousand ideas, but then when its time to put it down on paper, poof, it's gone.  Nothing comes out, not all of the time, but more often than not.  Writer's block, I don't think so, I think it's (my) brain to hands block, then the actual follow through block, not sure.  Pain in the butt block for sure and this is the reason I keep having gaps in my blog posts.  I will be able to sit and write for days or weeks at a time, then nothing.  So for now I'm in my good zone so it seems for me, yay, and I will keep on blogging so long and the mind and fingers work together in harmony.  Oh by the way, a thought, shit if flies by, nope nothing; fleeting moment; writers block; I'm lost.

Do you ever feel like you need to write something and it just doesn't come out?  That feels like every day.


The Criminal Life

The criminal life.  How do you end up in the criminal life?  Do you actually plan this crazy shit when your say seven years old?  Yeah, no; I didn't think so.  Do you grow up this way?  Do your parents, one or more, grandparents, siblings, cousins, lifestyle, friends, school (if you go or not), DNA, neighborhood, state, country, economic well-being, all-around how you are, give-two-shits-how-you-live, or even gender have to do with how you end up? depends who you ask, at least thats what you read and to me I call BS.

I call BS on all of it.  I don't care if you have nothing, came from nothing and live in card board box # 177 down the street from the park, you can end up being my doctor for all I know if you put your mind to it.  Then again you can be born with a silver spoon in your mouth and be my doctor also or you can both be the trash meth dealer we all hate, yet most of us do nothing about, because we figure if we ignore you, you'll go away.

Wake up!!  You are not immune!  What are the statistics for crime, even the small stuff?  I'm not sure, but I bet if there are three of you in the room at least one of you have committed a crime.  You may have not gotten caught, but I will bet my life on it one of you have.  Yes I will, my life.  Do you speed?  That's a crime.  Even 1 MPH over is a crime, yes 1 MPH over, they give you a courtesy, Change lanes without a signal?  No seatbelt?  Cheat?  I knew a judge who actually dated a married man (legally separated) but they were married, because a separation is not divorced, so that is technically still married. I bet you never thought of that until now did you???  Jaywalked?  Drink and drive?  Have you ever text while driving or talked on the phone before it went into effect to be a law???  Enough said.

With that being said, I want to delve into something a little bigger than small collar and dumbass thinking.  When was the last time you talked to your kids, nephews or nieces or friends who you thought maybe were doing things they shouldn't be?  Do you ignore them, hoping things will get better on their own or maybe someone else will have a chat or even maybe the cops will come and scare them?  I'm here to tell you that none of that or even all of that has happened and well, truly you still need to talk to them.  Just talk.  Don't judge them or mom or dad them.  Don't be their pastor or big brother, be a shoulder to lean on, maybe they need to vent get something out that they need to reveal, maybe something bigger than themselves.

Who knows, maybe it's been locked up inside of them for a long time.  If you shut them down, they will never talk, if you tell them they're at fault they then will never come to you.

Committing a crime can be for many reasons; love, passion, hate, guilt, attention, pride, but most of all it's for an inner being.  That is always connected to something bigger, whether a voice (so they may say) another person, themselves, or something.  It's never nothing.  Just because, bah.  Bored, is an answer little kids say when parents pay them no attention, so when teens say it's because we're bored, it's because ether seek attention due to the lack of it;  why no one gets thin one is beyond me.  They're is no boredom.  They have so much entertainment they are waiting for the next big thing, so making a big crime spree and wanting to see how long it takes the police to get there or find out how ling it takes them to figure out the crime is their way of getting entertained.

Stop giving into your kids and entertaining them at their whim and they won't be looking for more ways to bet stimulated quickly. In turn, they won't be turning to criminal activity so quickly because the regular entertainment and lifestyle will be sufficient enough everyday.

Just recently a man decided to go on a shooting spree, live on FaceBook, then blame to on his girlfriend, then a video later said oh, and her mom too, seriously!  Okay!  That was the most cowardly, despicable, unworthy things any person can do or say for any reason.  Place blame on no one but him!!  He pulled the trigger, He committed the crime, he actually stopped, thought out the process to VIDEO LIVE the entire process, hmmm, I call BS.  Please!  Oh, believe me, she may have been fuel to his fire, but she sure wasn't with him live in that video pulling that trigger.  It was a ploy for them to feel bad afterwards, to distract, to misdirect, let's make me feel like the victim.  In any case, yes he was still a criminal, committing a crime, crime of maybe passion, love, hate, guilt, pride, attention, and most inner being.  The bigger question, for who, what?  It's never nothing.  Full circle.

The criminal life is never a good choice, it gets you nowhere and nowhere fast for sure.  Sometimes it gets you in jail and sometimes it gets you dead.  In either case it doesn't seem to be the best option for anyone to make at any point in time for any reason whatsoever.  If you have a choice to make, just think and please make the right one.  Live, laugh and love.

Teddy bears

Who doesn't love a teddy bear.  They have so many different meanings.  To give one, receive one, hug one and just adore one that had been given to you, to your child, from your grandmother or girlfriend, boyfriend, mom and dad or that someone special.  Teddy bears have been around for many years.

Theodore Roosevelt, "Teddy's bear" is where it all came from.

 Wow!, I never knew. I never knew, did you?  A man, a past president, a hunter and a husband, a son, a friend.  He was so many things.  But an idol.  Strong enough to be an idol, yet soft enough to have someone wanting to create an iconic child's toy named after him,  so incredible that still helps people everyday.  People hug and love teddy bears, reminding them of a loved one, making them feel safe and secure.  Hugging a teddy bear helps you feel secure, loved and even safe at times.  Children play with them, talk to them, have them for comfort.  Adults have them too, sometimes doing the same for them, shh, I won't tell.

I like having my bear around, it gives me a sense of happiness and comfort.  I'm not afraid to say it.  Her name is Betty and she sits next to my bed, my husband knows her name and knows the story behind her.  It was from my youngest daughters birthday party.  I made her and filled her with my love and affection.  Teddy bears, not quite as great as a dog, or other pet mind you listen to you with no judgement and don't talk back, but they will always be there when needed, oh and no need to clean up after, lol.  I will always have my Betty, but when the time comes, will eventually hand her down to the next generation who needs her more.  I believe everyone needs to love and hug a teddy bear in their lifetime.  Live, love and laugh.  Oh yes and hug a teddy.

Family...what do you say?

Family, what do you say, well how do you them?  No really, how do you really explain it, actually explain it to someone, especially si...